The Amina Project was born...
"One of the hardest parts about miscarriage is that it is a very common occurrence. One in four pregnancies result in it and yet we are not supposed to speak about it. I spend a lot of my time talking openly about my experience and have found that various friends have suffered a similar fate. It seems utter madness to have such a common devastating experience be felt by so many people and yet, "shh, don't tell people" is the mantra of most.
I guess one of the biggest things is that you can feel like a failure as a woman. I instantly apologised to my boyfriend for failing to keep his offspring safe. He wouldn't accept it and kept on reminding me that it was a failure of development and wasn't anything I did, or didn't do that caused it.
I feel that this is a subject that should be spoken about; just how abortion is more commonly mentioned in media nowadays. It's not exactly the most wonderful of subject but with the affects reaching so far, you would assume that it could be more openly discussed and people could be more openly consoled about it.
As with any loss, the grieving process is dire but you get through it because you have too. It may seem like a cliche but I feel that there is comfort in statistics, some of my friends who have had similar losses have said they found no comfort, I can not help but fear this is society letting them down by not allowing them to feel as though they can openly discuss this subject and grieve publicly.
It's a dreadful thing but it happens everyday. Doctors and Nurses have to break this frightful news over and over, day after day to numerous different faces. I just hope one day that miscarriage becomes a more approachable subject, less of the taboo that it currently is, but until that day, I will continue to discuss it in an open manner, as that is the only way I know to deal with these things."
Having suffered two miscarriages over the years, both times I received an influx of friends sharing their own loss and experiences with me, and felt that these topics shouldn't be talked about behind closed doors and in hushed tones, but shared in a public forum where we can learn, and grow together.
Here at The Amina Project, I would love to hear from you, whether it is your story, that of your partner, child, friend or siblings. We have all undergone many trials and tribulations through our lives and maybe by sharing we can help others realise they are not alone.
And, if you feel I've missed an important topic, let me know, and I'll add it accordingly. This is a work in progress and I'd love to hear from you.